Happy January 14th.
Let's just trip out real quick on the fact that 14 days of our new year have already gone by! Whew this years gunu be a fast one, I can feel it.
We humans just love something about the fact that we all get a fresh start. New days, new weeks, new years... I think God just knew that we could only handle so much at one time.
How are your new year resolutions holding up?? (2 weeks in= make it or break it, in my book)
My work out routine failed after day 3... (but i saw that coming, sadly)
Another one I had was to simply pray more. Just talk to God on more of a regular basis, and that one has been going swimmingly! woo!
My last resolution was based around friendship.
I know the concept and action of friendship has become very normal to us, but it can actually be something semi hard to get right and/or maintain at times. It's and plain and true fact: we all need good friends (at least one). Not acquaintances, or fake BFFs. but a real, "down to the heart of it all" friend. Someone to share your life with (besides just your boyfriend!) These people are the ones who encourage us, enjoy different seasons of life with us, help shape us, and set us straight when needed!
I've never had a problem making friends, and have been pretty much constantly surrounded by them since I was young. But as I get older and more mature, I have been finding that a real friend can be hard to find.
I believe it requires someone you can be, and are, really real with. Some one you can expose your true self to. It's so easy to put up that fake facade with someone, because we all do it, ALL THE TIME. It's like this button we push, around parents, and those acquaintances from high school you run into on state street. "Hey yea oh my gosh, yes I'm doing sooo great! Yea let's seriously hang out! Like this week!" Nope you're not going to hang out with that person, and you don't even WANT to! End of story. This friend deserves to hear true things from your heart. Even if they don't match up to how perfect you seem on facebook. Real friends share real feelings, struggles, and joys from life. I mean really though, what is a true friendship without honesty? Absolutely nothing.
Along with truth in friendship, obviously comes trust. This is a big one. We all have some sort of trust issue or another. From that past boyfriend who jacked you up, or your ex best friend who started roomers and betrayed you for someone else. And I don't blame you. Really hard stuff happens in life that can affect this area of our vulnerability a lot. We are all so talented at building up the walls that surround our hearts. Higher and higher they go; it's like clock work. But trusting this friend is key. If you can't let down your walls, then there is no realness, then there is no relationship.
**Obviously you need to use discernment to see if this person is actually trust worthy. But if they have proved to be, trust them! They are not your past boyfriend, or ex BFF so don't treat them like they are. It's only right to give them a fair shot.
And lastly. A true friend should have a similar heart as yours. Meaning: you both enjoy similar things, and are pursuing similar things. I'm not saying this girl has to be boyfriend material, but in a sense, if you want to get close to someone (as a good friend), then your heart should match up in most areas. For example, if you love God and are seeking him throughout life, it would work out beautifully if this friend were also and understood where you were coming from.
The more things you have in common, the more your hearts can connect and understand each other; when those joyous times arise, and the painful ones.
-granted, sometimes two people connect as friend, even while coming from totally different worlds! This is definitely possible. But for me, the same heart aspect is big.
My new years resolution was to invest in my true friends, and become an even better one. Listening, sharing, loving, and making time for your good friends is so important! You must be a good one, to have a good one.
-I challenge us this week/ month, to evaluate our friendships and to put more effort into the ones that are close to our hearts.
xoxo
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