It's funny how gaga us girls get over chick flicks. Like there is truly nothing better than the warm feeling our little hearts get when we see an amazing love story played out on film right in front of our eyes. Not just the ordinary lovey movie, but I'm convinced it's the ones where the main female character is the type with the super unique personality, with corks and imperfections, and as the boy falls in love with her, you are falling just as hard too.
It's that for bidden love, that love that is unexpected and shouldn't happen type of love that we all LOVE. In most films, it seems to require the type of girl who is rough around the edges, and funny, and has odd habits, and the boy just seems to fall crazy in love with every one of them. It's that "raw and real" seeming love that gets me the most. Do you understand what I'm trying to describe here??
3 things about these movies:
one. I will ALWAYS love them no matter what people say
two. A painful but true fact I have had to learn about them is that though the stories are wonderful, and raw love definitely exists out there, the hollywood side of love, just isn't true. Relationships aren't that perfect and it would be boring if they were. The side of love and relationships people don't seem to talk about or really show in movies is where all the hard stuff remains. (just wanted to throw that one out there. being real here) It isn't healthy for us girls to have this false view of how perfect our love story will be. I have actually had to rid myself of this false expectation.
three. But on the bright side I do believe there is a man out there for every one of us who will love, and should love you for exactly who you are. It's so odd that so often (even when may not realize it), us girls are trying to bend and shape who we are into someone, or something we are not (especially to please that one boy we want). Don't get me wrong here, there is a wonderful and healthy side of improving yourself in ways you should, and growing. But down to the heart of who you are should stay that way. God designed you to be you and no one else. There is so much freedom in simply being who you are, and its frankly exhausting and takes much effort to pretend (especially in front of the male species ) to be different.
For example: I really do like hiking, but I also love diet coke and any soda ever invented. I look a lot better when I am around the boy I like. Some times my laugh is so obnoxious and loud I even start to embarrass myself. I am really good at seeing the best in people. I could eat brownies and cake until I feel like I might vomit. I get sinfully frustrated and cry when I get lost driving somewhere (and somehow think yelling helps).I think God's earth and animals are the most amazing thing, but I do not have any hard feeling about eating them. I love dancing, and most of the time pretend I'm more confident in my moves than I really am. I love being with people, but need my cave time just as equally. I am so bad at spelling, I probably shouldn't be in college. I think my hair is beautiful when it's long. Receiving any type of flower from anyone makes me really happy. I am so far from perfect, but am always trying to grow and improve my ways. etc etc etc.
Long story short. It may sound cheesy.. but so much freedom comes from simply being confident in who YOU are. The right man for you, will be the one who knows you fully, and loves every bit.
--Also, do not date a man with the intention of changing them. Because, It's really hard to do, and rarely happens, it isn't fair (because if you deserve to be loved for who you really are, so do they) and in the long run you will end up bitter at the qualities and/or habits they never changed for you.
That was all just on my mind today and thought i'd share.
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